“The Heart Artist”on Love and Relationships


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As the Heart Artist, creating art is one way of expressing the journey of heart & the true essence of love, the soul, relationships and life. Love is such a powerful source of energy! I don’t know about you, but I love to be loved and love to love.

But let’s face it, in this day and age it is a topic of much discussion! Relationships in turmoil are everyday news and with the divorce rate going up all the time, it’s amazing when two people truly stick together & grow as a couple. You know, it’s a funny thing when you’ve been married for 30 years. You start to realize that most people who’ve been married that long are in their 6o’s. Which makes us, married for 30 & together for 35, a bit rare & unusual.

Sometimes people think we are newlyweds and couldn’t possibly still be in love. I suppose it gives hope to most and sets an example that longevity is possible in a marriage. But let me be honest with you, this past year was VERY challenging for just about the entire world, and for us, it was no different.  Lots of challenges that questioned our goals, our purposes, both as individuals and as a couple. It was scary and frustrating all at the same time. Although like any couple, we have gone through a lot of change and transformation over the 35 years, sometimes you are not totally sure if you will make it or not. This is all a part of the journey.

For us, this was a huge turning point, and I have come to realize that all happy marriages, you know the ones that last and last and last. . .  go through growing pains, or, they unfortunately just put up with each other and end up bickering and fighting or completely giving up, to the end of an unhappy marriage.

I’ve seen this happen and it is so sad to watch!

Most likely we will go through a few more before we leave this earth. There is something very comforting in knowing this.

It seems like somehow juggling over the years, raising kids, working, making a living . . .  couples can lose parts of themselves as individuals, to one degree or another. You know, when you stop doing the things you love or leaving your own personal goals behind to be the Mom, or the Wife, or the Husband/Provider or the Dad. On the other hand, when you lose bits of yourself along the way, you lose the coupleness too! Right?  And all of this can lead to one big blame-fest merry-go-round, the kind you never feel you can get off.  You know that one I am talking about.

Well I must say we grew a lot this year and came up with some amazing ways to simplify and our love relationship turned a corner. That, by statistics alone, I don’t think most couples do. Perhaps what I have to share could be helpful???  With all the growth over the past 35 years, I probably could share some things about relationships & love that might just help. I would love to hear your thoughts or comments.

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P.S. Oh yeah, here’s a date idea: One of the biggest secrets to creating a better marriage is to do more things we love, together and as individuals. Also, for us, to do more art shows that are relaxing and fun! So this year, we are starting our New Year with a fantastic Art & Wine event at the  Heart O’ The Mountain Winery in the Santa Cruz Mountains, this Saturday. Hope you can join us!

Here’s a link for more info on the event:   Heart O’ The Mountain Winery


Your devoted Heart Artist,

Debbie Marie Arambula

6 thoughts on ““The Heart Artist”on Love and Relationships

  1. Thank you for letting us know about your daily sharing of LOVE!!! We think of you everyday in every room of our home….with all our DebArt and what it means in our lives— the BEST!!!… the more you share about your HEART, other’s hearts will be transformed…. Peace and Love to you and Steve!!! XOXOXO…. sistersue :*)


    1. Good Morning my Sweetness!
      Thank you, Thank you, Thank you. I think love is such a beautiful experience and one that can be quite the ride as well. You, Mike & the girls are so wonderful and I am so happy to be a part of your lives. Painting your Heart Portrait was a true honor, the love light that you have inside for each other is honest and pure. Hope you both create a date with each other soon.


  2. What a great way to start my morning with positive thoughts from my favorite artist:)!!!!! Debbie, you are a breath of fresh air in this modern world that has forgotten how to say HAPPY NEW YEAR without feeling awkward. DON’T STOP:). Keep spreading your love with your art, your happy thoughts and most of all with your actions towards all that meet you. Here’s to a great 2011!!! My family and I all love you guys:)!!!!!


    1. Good morning Marta,
      Wow what a wonderful soul hug you have given me. I am glad that you enjoyed it. I love sharing my heart with the world and want to bring value to peoples lives. We are all in this together. Happy New Year!


  3. Debbie! I was sooo thrilled to read your post about the things you and I discussed over the phone!…and, to see our beautiful painting in the background:) We are so blessed to have found our soulmates! And, you are right, it takes work and there are growing pains, but the love keeps growing and you keep reaching deeper levels of love and enlightenment the more you grow together. I’m so excited to have your artwork in my home, spreading love! You are amazing and I’m so thankful I’ve gotten to know you a bit in the last few months:) xoxoxo Jennifer


    1. Hi Jennifer,
      You are a sweet heart. And Thank you, Thank you, Thank you for your compliments of love. As the heart artist I get to meet a lot of couples and have had the great honor to paint their Heart Portraits. When I painted one for you and your hubby I was deeply moved about your story and the deep love that you have for each other. Yes Love is a GROWING journey of the heart and a HUGE ADVENTURE of soul stretching. Each day I learn more and more how to be a better best friend to my hubby and to find ways to inspire and truly acknowledge all the strengths we have as a couple. Ups and downs are all a part of the growing pains for sure, funny how we are all taught from a very little age that we find a man,marry him, live in a big house and live happily ever after hardly anyone talks about the growing pains. Silly!
      Anyway you have a beautiful light inside of you and I am glad that our paths crossed.


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