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As the Heart Artist, creating art is one way of expressing the journey of heart & the true essence of love, the soul, relationships and life. Love is such a powerful source of energy! I don’t know about you, but I love to be loved and love to love.
But let’s face it, in this day and age it is a topic of much discussion! Relationships in turmoil are everyday news and with the divorce rate going up all the time, it’s amazing when two people truly stick together & grow as a couple. You know, it’s a funny thing when you’ve been married for 30 years. You start to realize that most people who’ve been married that long are in their 6o’s. Which makes us, married for 30 & together for 35, a bit rare & unusual.
Sometimes people think we are newlyweds and couldn’t possibly still be in love. I suppose it gives hope to most and sets an example that longevity is possible in a marriage. But let me be honest with you, this past year was VERY challenging for just about the entire world, and for us, it was no different. Lots of challenges that questioned our goals, our purposes, both as individuals and as a couple. It was scary and frustrating all at the same time. Although like any couple, we have gone through a lot of change and transformation over the 35 years, sometimes you are not totally sure if you will make it or not. This is all a part of the journey.
For us, this was a huge turning point, and I have come to realize that all happy marriages, you know the ones that last and last and last. . . go through growing pains, or, they unfortunately just put up with each other and end up bickering and fighting or completely giving up, to the end of an unhappy marriage.
I’ve seen this happen and it is so sad to watch!
Most likely we will go through a few more before we leave this earth. There is something very comforting in knowing this.
It seems like somehow juggling over the years, raising kids, working, making a living . . . couples can lose parts of themselves as individuals, to one degree or another. You know, when you stop doing the things you love or leaving your own personal goals behind to be the Mom, or the Wife, or the Husband/Provider or the Dad. On the other hand, when you lose bits of yourself along the way, you lose the coupleness too! Right? And all of this can lead to one big blame-fest merry-go-round, the kind you never feel you can get off. You know that one I am talking about.
Well I must say we grew a lot this year and came up with some amazing ways to simplify and our love relationship turned a corner. That, by statistics alone, I don’t think most couples do. Perhaps what I have to share could be helpful??? With all the growth over the past 35 years, I probably could share some things about relationships & love that might just help. I would love to hear your thoughts or comments.
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P.S. Oh yeah, here’s a date idea: One of the biggest secrets to creating a better marriage is to do more things we love, together and as individuals. Also, for us, to do more art shows that are relaxing and fun! So this year, we are starting our New Year with a fantastic Art & Wine event at the Heart O’ The Mountain Winery in the Santa Cruz Mountains, this Saturday. Hope you can join us!
Here’s a link for more info on the event: Heart O’ The Mountain Winery
Your devoted Heart Artist,
Debbie Marie Arambula